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  • Panamalt@sh.itjust.workstome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    5 days ago

    Why do people have to have a diagnosable thing wrong with them, like auditory processing issues, to have their feelings or experiences validated?

    How do you know what the other person experiences? How do you know whether they have auditory problems or not? What right do you have to decide how someone else feels about something? Why do you get to decide how the world communicates?

    This has nothing to do with talking on the phone. It’s about recognizing that we don’t get to have the corner market on the universe and learning to embrace the one thing that makes human beings interesting, our messiness. Even if that messiness is avoiding talking on the phone.


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    As someone who is autistic, has an ample dose of ADHD, and the hearing of a brick, talking on the phone is a literal, hellish nightmare. I can barely figure out social interaction when I can see your face, I can’t pay attention to shit unless it’s actively grabbing my focus, and on the best of days the phone is about as intelligible as the adults from Peanuts.

    Fuck. Phone. Calls.

    It’s easy to take our experience of the world or how we feel about something and try to forcefully apply it to everyone else. This almost never works, and we just end up looking like a dumbass because people are messy and rarely fit in the same mold as us. Perhaps you feel that avoiding talking on the phone is ridiculous, but that is decidedly not universally true. Next time, maybe try and think through how other people might have a different experience and reason than you before passing such judgments.







  • I heard this concept somewhere once of “Technical Debt” wherein a thing gets made and it works really well but then it gets updated or new features are added and something breaks, but rather than tear the whole thing apart to fix the issue, a patch or bandaid gets slapped on to ship the thing. Then the next update comes along and this time it takes two bandaids, one to ‘fix’ the new problem and one to keep the old bandaid on. The next update takes three bandaids, then four . . . and so on. The accumulation of all these bandaids is known as the Technical Debt, and it must always be repaid, somehow, someday.

    Microsoft stubbornly refuses to repay their technical debt at all costs, Apple is terrified of letting anyone ever get even a glimpse of their mountain of technical debt, and Linux bathes in a weird soup of refusing to let technical debt even happen and dispensing bandaids so fast they make the RedCross look like a joke.