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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • Will already told you that wasn’t something he was interested in. Janet showed mild interest. She’d be up for it. But it wasn’t something that’s a priority for her.

    So when you sent over the events and she talked to her husband about it. He could have easily expressed that he wasn’t comfortable with his wife walking around naked or having her walk around with other naked people. She doesn’t care about doing it enough that it’s worth making her husband uncomfortable.

    It’s not about him telling her she can’t. It’s about each of them respecting each other enough not to do things that make each other uncomfortable. They are mature enough to have a conversation about things, express their emotions to each other, and value each other’s feelings.











  • I still remember what my mother said to me when I got a girlfriend. “Use a condom.” That was it. No pretending it wasn’t going to happen.

    As for drugs, my family never liked them. They never told us kids, but my father had an issue with opiates that’s cost him his job and medical license. My older brother also had an issue with opiates.

    I used to do a lot of research on erowid on drugs. Between my brother and I it was a lot of don’t be stupid, do your research on what’s safe and what interacts with each other, and stay away from opiates.

    For the most part, it wasn’t talked about much in my family, other than my older brother my younger brother and I didn’t gravitate to them too much or hang with people who did. I ended up getting really into weed for a short time, because that’s where my ADHD hyper focus hobby was for a few months. Then I realized I didn’t like not being sober that much.


  • When a student goes to school, the school becomes in loco parentis and the student doesn’t have protection from school officials. Children, on campus, general do not have protection for free speech, protection from unreasonable searches or seizures, or really any of their rights.

    The school, acting as parents, can restrict their speech, search their bags, and confiscate contraband.

    The school can even waive most of the child’s rights even when dealing with law enforcement until parents arrive.



  • On her computer, why not just use Thunderbird on it? Or even outlook, or whatever she likes. She just needs to pick the software.

    On her phone, or even yours, why the stuff with accessing Thunderbird through vnc. Just add the server to whatever mail app on your phones?

    If you want a web based thing, roundcube or sogo. But Thunderbird is gonna suck the way you are trying to use it.


  • Stupid rspamd default config on my server blocked an email confirming an order from rayban I guess because it was the first time it saw an email from them? Couldn’t even release it, which annoyed me greatly.

    And it also put a confirmation from a hotel into quarantine because the resort didn’t have a valid spf record. But at least I could release that one.

    I ended up making it much more permissive as a result. But it was super annoying.


  • Lol as if cutting my lawn is fun. Or that I’d even want to join your party.

    It’s hypocritical to think that your loud noise when Im trying to sleep is okay but my loud noise when you are trying to sleep isn’t.

    But this is life living with other people that don’t sleep the same hours as you. Sometimes shit is going to inconvenience you, and I’ll do what I can to minimize it. But I’ve got shit I need to get done too and I’m just not going to not do it because it might suck for someone for an hour of their week.